Are going through absolute hell right now. We've lost children in my family, suddenly and tragically, and some families survive it, and some don't. The father of an only son who died tragically died himself a few months later, as he just lost his will to live. Lots of marriages don't make it, either, as you can't comfort each other when you are both hanging on for dear life. You just have to go into survival mode, survive one day at a time, and go through the hell. There's no way around, no shortcut, just right through it. Take help and assistance from all those around you who offer it, including doctors. Take care of physical health and force the routines, even though it may be next to impossible. If they have other kids, they have to maintain some kind of routine and stability for them. Expect an emotional roller coaster, as that's how the human mind deals with tragedy.
It's going to take everything and everyone around these people to slog through the horrible fog they are in right now, and it's never going to heal, they'll just become better able to deal with it, that's all.
I am constantly amazed at what bad people wingnuts are. The ones on this board seem pretty representative of the ones I have met in the world and I have not met one that I would really want to be my friend.
"I am constantly amazed at what bad people wingnuts are. The ones on this board seem pretty representative of the ones I have met in the world and I have not met one that I would really want to be my friend."
Personally I think the wingnuts are lazy. It is easier to run with an ideology than to gather facts and do an analysis.