I do understand your complaint quite well. Open communication is so very important to a healthy relationship, but even with it, things can go wrong and usually do. Try to let the woman you are referencing to be comfortable with being open with you. That includes not acting defensive or irritated when she does. Let her know her feelings matter to you. Women want to know that you care and that they are important to you. I don't know the woman you are seeing or what the issues are, but I do know a man can make a huge difference in the way a woman responds to him. It just feels like work to him. LOL!
They have a movement off of such an idea. It's called the woman's liberation movement. Remember, you may not actually want to hear what she has to say, agree with it or even understand it from your perspective. I say what I mean. I can tell you this, it isn't always met with a nice greeting. lol If it were only that simple. (smile)