I think it is very safe to say that if the US had to deal with a similar case of unparalleled disruption of normal daily life of its citizens, caused by unparalleled acts of cruelty, lies and manipulation (since the Nazi era, that is), and if the US suffered DAILY 9/11s for 2 years, you would long ago CARPET BOMB the West Bank and Gaza to dust and rubble.
Israel has shown a level of military restraint that is simply unprecedented in history. Feel free to ask any military historian to verify this. We have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. On the contrary, we should be very proud of being the country with the most moral army on planet Earth.
I have a lot more I'd like to say to you, but I lack the time. I hope I successfully conveyed my point.
Once again, if you are not American, please tell me where you are from, so that I can compose a similar answer to suit your own country.