I feel you. I have many gay FA friends who fly for big D and its worse then you know. But they all say it's a very safe airline. They don't cut corners on safety but since Northworst took over most areas of the airline (that Richard Andersen was "not brought in to merge" LOL) they use the old NW model of zcrew the customer at every transaction point.
Highest baggage fee's. Highest change fee's. Highest pet fee's. Nail 'em at ever point.
So ya they will nickle and dime everyone at every point but don't call them unsafe. My gay FA friends would tell me if that wuz the case.