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There's Nothing Wrong With Giving Up On A Career Goal That's Not Working Out

If you've been obsessing for years over a specific career goal — like breaking into an industry or moving to the top of a company — without any success, it may be time to move on. 

Here are some reasons that you should consider giving up: 

1. It's making you sick. Research has shown that obsessing over long-term goals may be harmful to your health.

The researchers, Gregory Miller and Carsteb Wrosch, found a link between giving up on difficult goals to lower levels of CRP, a protein that indicates inflammation in the body — which is linked to problems like diabetes and heart disease. 

“When people are faced with situations in which they cannot realize a key life goal, the most adaptive response for physical and mental health may be to disengage from this goal,” said the authors in a statement.

They also found that giving up on impossible goals was linked to lower levels of depression and stress symptoms. 

2. The goals aren't realistic. Stever Robbins, author of "Get It Done Guy's 9 Steps To Work Less And Do More," says you should think critically about whether you're making progress.

Also, figure out what it is that you expect to achieve with this goal. If your plan is very specific, like curing cancer or becoming the next CEO of Apple, "move to a new dream if it looks like you won't reach the destination." However, if you're in it for the experience, there's no need to abandon your dream all together. 

"If it's only the destination that matters, swap it out if it's not performing," says Robbins. "If it's a dream where the joy comes from the journey, keeping it means keeping joy in your life."

Consider making your goals broader and give yourself room to adapt. 

3. It's no longer right for you. It's difficult to let go of something that you've put a lot of time and effort into, but you need to be flexible enough to realize when something is no longer worth it. 

Sometimes people may doggedly pursue a career path because that's what they studied in college or because they're too scared to start over, but by doing this, you're restricting yourself from other experiences that could be more in line with your desires. 

"Be willing to let your dreams change and not feel guilty or that you’ve failed," writes Chrissy Scivicque, career coach and founder of Eat Your Career. "Sometimes, you have to let go of old dreams to let the new ones in. That’s not 'giving up.' It’s growing up."

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17 comments

  • amransan  •  3 months ago
    when your manager dont like u whatever the reason its time for u to find another job!!
    dont wait u will never get promotion or get your own goal!

    base on my own experiance :(
    • Uncle John 3 months ago
      managers only like FTs :(
    • Sparky 3 months ago
      This is very true indeed!
    • amransan 3 months ago
      @Uncle John,

      unless the manager is FT the he will prefer FT :(

      thanks for sharing :)
  • William  •  Colombo, Sri Lanka  •  3 months ago
    When u reached 40, no more career goals. U will take anything come along.... taxi driver, bus driver & ....
  • Lawrence  •  Singapore, Singapore  •  3 months ago
    I am in my early 50's and I've been doing what I am doing for almost 30 years now. That is a pretty long time...and I've had a very good run, mind you. So no complaints and no regrets for me. Having said that, I reckon I've got a good 20 years (or more) ahead...so it is time to find a new challenge, to reinvent myself, to enrich and develop. This could be a new season and a new chapter in my life. Never stay stagnant and never stop learning...try new things!
    • myrna 3 months ago
      Good for you Lawrence! That's the right spirit. It's never too late to reinvent, to educate and enrich yourself. Go for it and I wish you all the best.
  • Anuar  •  Singapore, Singapore  •  3 months ago
    It ok to job hop. Till get right job and right pay.
  • kenluckyl  •  Singapore, Singapore  •  3 months ago
    Ohhh time to go casino to gamble liao.... after that buy 4 d and toto.... life is so full of gamble.
  • cooler  •  Singapore, Singapore  •  3 months ago
    Unless I hv no more commitment like, finish paying house load, children already grown up and feeding their own..if not, could jump to the worst when age concern..
  • Akanksha R  •  Melbourne, Australia  •  3 months ago
    i liked it,it gives u so
    much inspiration :)
  • Awesome  •  Singapore, Singapore  •  3 months ago
    by 40, most have to change. no choice.
  • kenluckyl  •  Singapore, Singapore  •  3 months ago
    Here the career goal is over....Go to any large company, you'll see majority of the workers are ah tiongs and juhu ka. check their management you'll see its indo or pinoy. check the top, at least 1-2 ang moh. Then the only Sgporean is the MD. Pathetic.
  • Angelene  •  3 months ago
    Just like that MP Yaw of Hougang, if he thinks he cannot handle Hougang, either he auto resign or just wait for Mr Low to sack him. Time will show whether a person's character and capabilites are suitable to be steady for that post or not.
  • A Yahoo! User  •  3 months ago
    This article is not being objective or non-biased.

    The reality has got to do with the hiring party who is the main culprit causing this kindda of stalemate or social disparity:

    The following factors in your article are definitely invalid and unconvincing:

    It is not about

    - "doggedly pursue a career path because that's what they studied in college or because they're too scared to start over.

    - "[unwilling] to let your dreams change and not feel guilty or that you’ve failed,"

    It is RATHER DUE to

    - a candidate is willing to take on new challenges in a career switch BUT the hiring party is hesitant (salary, age, experience etc) to give a candidate, whose qualification is from another field of study, a chance to develop and build his or her career in the new industry.

    - a candidate is willing to adjust expectations (and dreams) and not guilty about failure BUT the hiring party is not willing to adjust expectations and accept the need to train a candidate for the job.

    So the two points under "It is not about" should be aptly directed to and a true reflection of the hiring party mindset and sentiment:

    - hiring party doggedly pursues a mindset or policy of writing off candidates from other field of studies and hiring party is too scared to start over with (esp. training) these candidates.

    - hiring party must be willing to let your expectations (and dreams) change and not view a chore about training these candidates from other field of studies.

    And to the writer of this article, unless you are the boss of the Business Insider or blessed with a "bed of roses" life, it is meaningless to hookwink the view of the masses with this kindda SPIN article.
  • michael  •  3 months ago
    i live and die only for what i like and will not go for un-likes.
    its my policy.
  • Kaushik  •  Faridabad, India  •  3 months ago
    change is the new world order
  • sujatha  •  3 months ago
    100% true.But how to adapt it?Once we change acc. to it,our health will be perfectly ok.But how?
  • gayathri  •  Chennai, India  •  3 months ago
    Gayathri. 100% True !!!!!
  • Vincent xavier  •  Chennai, India  •  3 months ago
    Ya its right....!!! Time to move on.....
  • MAMTA  •  Chandigarh, India  •  3 months ago
    good thougt
 
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