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What Your Financial Advisor Should Not Tell You

Richard Satran

Getting a financial advisor is a bit like going to a new doctor. There are things they want to know so they can give you the best treatment.

Your physician has one clear purpose: fixing what ails you and helping you avoid unhealthy behavior. Financial advisors want to improve your financial health because the more wealth you build over time, the more they are likely to earn. That means your interests are aligned, in theory. In practice, it may not be so clear-cut.

"Financial advising is more of an art than a science. You can't just push a button and create a financial plan," says Jon Smith, chief executive officer of DT Investment Partners, whose practice includes independent reviews of financial advisors.

The fact that it's not, as Smith says, pure science, makes finding financial advice complicated. It means you, as the client, need to articulate your own vision of financial success and work with an advisor to make it come to life.

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That also means forging a trusting relationship, but one with clear guidelines and boundaries that you and your advisor understand and respect. Here are some guidelines about things you should not expect, or may not even want, to hear from a financial advisor (and some things they should never tell you).

Don't ask about the future. Everyone wants to know what will happen next. Your financial advisor doesn't really know it better than anyone else. There is "proven low predictive power" for success in picking stocks or mutual funds, says Fran Kinniry, senior investment strategist for Vanguard Investment Strategy Group. Clients shouldn't expect advisors to know what will happen next in the markets or the economy, and financial advisers shouldn't pretend to know.

"We are all tempted by this. Financial advisors do not have a crystal ball," Kinniry says. "The future, by definition, is uncertain, and advisors should be staying away from predicting things like interest rates, the stock market and what the Fed will do, and things beyond their control."

It's OK to ask how your investing behavior and savings plans suit your goals. What financial advisors can do is guide people to save and accumulate wealth, and help them stick to a working plan, much like a physical trainer coaching people on staying fit. On the savings side, advisors can help people design budgets to live within their means. On the investing side, they can help people stay the course through difficult markets to meet long-term goals.

But exactly what does that mean? It might sound counterintuitive, but a key role financial advisors must play in helping people accumulate wealth is to coax them to take on risk. "They should be trying to maximize how much risk you are willing to take," Kinniry says. "The most you can possibly stomach, but not too much risk." That does not mean to look for speculative investments, he says. It means an advisor can help you invest in a disciplined way for the long term and stay "committed to your investments through difficult market times."

Your financial advisor should not propose investments based on unprovable assumptions about economic "certainties." Some financial advisors take the easy course of playing on client fears surrounding hot-button issues facing the market, or the opposite: get-rich-quick schemes in real estate or things "no one else has heard about yet." Fear of runaway inflation is one pitch that works well at triggering a wave of investment alternatives like commodities, especially gold, which is favored by older investors who experienced hyperinflation in the 1970s and 1980s. Many of those alternative investments have performed badly over the past two years. Gold has declined from the $1,900-an-ounce level to a low of $1,200 since 2011, offering none of the protection some said it would provide when U.S. debt was downgraded or when the government shut down.

"Over the past decade, this enduring belief in inflation has been one of the biggest disconnects between what people think and what has happened," Kinniry says.

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Another important issue is how your advisor takes your home equity into account."Some advisors will tell you to borrow against your home equity to raise cash, and that can be self-serving because that means you are refinancing and not selling anything from your portfolio [from which advisors generate fees] and they get a fee for a refinancing," says Smith of DT Investment Partners. In the boom-and-bust era of home prices, people worry about the fluctuating value of their homes. The idea of withdrawing equity while they have it can be appealing. But there can be long-term negatives, such as adding more years of debt payments. A home is one of the most important assets for many individuals, and borrowing away equity could be a long-term negative.

Ask your financial advisor specifics on how the financial plan he or she creates for you fits your situation. Some financial plans are derived from broad demographic assumptions advisors make when you do an initial review. It's standard practice for financial firms to give you a form going over your financial situation. As part of that initial review, they will gauge your risk tolerance. But it does not tell your advisor everything. That initial snapshot of your life can be helpful, but things change. What's more, the risk assessment is as much for the investment firm's protection against future lawsuits as it is for the client's benefit.

People's financial lives are complicated: Meeting costs for retirement is the main focus of most savings plans. But there are many financial issues that can change over time, such as kids' college costs, health issues, job losses, divorces or an inheritance.

"The advisor needs to keep engaging with the client, identifying scenarios and outcomes, and providing guidance when things arise," says John Nersesian, managing director of wealth management services at Nuveen Investments, who trains financial advisors at a number of firms.

Clients may not want not to share all of the details about their lives with a financial advisor, and may not even want not to fully disclose their basic financial holdings. Advisors have to respect clients' preferences, says Nersesian, although "you get the best advice if you are forthcoming about your finances."

In other words, a trusting relationship is best, but advisors have to earn that trust. Not just with big financial returns, but by engaging with clients and speaking in terms they understand.

You can ask for a second opinion in financial matters. You can always get advice from more than one financial advisor, just as you can with a doctor's opinion, and many people like to use more than one financial advisor. "No advisor should be worried about being put in a competitive situation," Smith says.

An advisor's willingness to admit they can't handle every financial issue that comes up could be a good sign, Kinniry says.

Remember that you, as the client, have a responsibility to understand and ask about fees. Know exactly what you are paying for, experts say. "You want to pay lowest rate possible," Kinniry says. Fees are one of the only things that are certain in investing, but they are also among the most misunderstood. Expect clear, understandable answers in simple, direct language. And do your best to understand exactly what you are paying for.

[See: 6 Ways Retirement Can Be More Affordable.]

Don't take it as a negative if an advisor says,"I don't know" when you ask for specifics, or "I don't do that." No single advisor knows everything, and sometimes you might need an accountant or a tax or trust lawyer. "The very best advisors and brightest investors are humble enough to know what they don't know," Nersesian says. It might cost more to get specialized advice, but it's often worth it.

"It's in a financial advisor's best interest to give you clear advice that you want and that's not misleading or in some self-serving way," Smith says. He adds that it's a red flag if they offer you something for free outside of wealth management, such as complex private transactions that lock up money for long periods of time, complicated trusts, tax avoidance plans or insurance products. Be especially wary, he says, if an advisor offers services or products outside their area of expertise, even if they are free. "Head for the hills when they do that," Smith says. "There is no free lunch."

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